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Showing posts with label love. Show all posts
Showing posts with label love. Show all posts
Monday, March 7, 2016
Miracles, Radical Love and ... the Main Event!
Personal Reflections
Chapter 19:
Have you ever wondered why God made himself manifest through miracles throughout the Old Testament days -- manna in the desert, the burning bush, speaking directly to the prophets, Jonah swallowed by a whale and surviving the ordeal? And Jesus during his time on Earth with us healing the sick, raising the dead, feeding the hungry by multiplying fishes and loaves, walking on water, calming the storm, turning water into wine?
Why don't we have miracles today to help us believe?
This chapter suggests that miracles are happening but we don't necessarily recognize them. I have thought that same thing for a long time now. It was easier back then, not so much because the miracles were so blatant, but because there was always someone around whom those miracles centered. And perhaps people were less cynical then? They certainly did not have as much scientific knowledge then.
We like to explain everything using our own knowledge and research. We've seen a lot of scams, con artists and deluded leaders, too. So it's good that we are not so naive as to fall for every con artist's line.
But miracles? They happen. People are healed with no good medical explanation. We make mistakes that could easily be fatal (like pulling in front of another vehicle on the road because we didn't see them coming, or because we misjudged their speed), yet somehow we remain unscathed. Our guardian angels on the job?
Whose prayer can you be the answer to today?
We've all heard that God uses us to answer prayers. We've all had our prayers answered by someone else, in unexpected ways. We can do this in very ordinary ways, actually. By paying attention to others, to their needs and their pain, by getting outside of ourselves for once and reaching out, maybe even simply by smiling or holding a door for someone.
Visiting the sick, homebound or imprisoned, feeding the hungry, offering someone a ride to an appointment, stopping to help someone whose car is broken down (or just calling for help), taking a colleague out for coffee or lunch or just lending a shoulder and listening. All are ways to answer prayers or create small miracles for others.
And if we pay attention, we will begin to see miracles everywhere, every day. What a great change to make in our attitudes!
"The one who believes in me will also do the works that I do, in fact, will do greater works than these." John 14:12
Chapter 20:
Radical love? What is that? My perception and understanding of love is constantly changing. When I was young, love meant parents who provided for my needs and encouraged me, friends who would spend time with me and for the most part, as a child love involves more receiving than giving. Children are needy.
Later, love meant something more romantic, and it was often painful. Unrequited love is one of the great dramas of adolescence and young adulthood. It's a burning awareness of someone else (who may not even know you exist) and yet it's still a self-centered kind of love.
But becoming a parent means a radical shift into being the provider rather than the providee, and even those who do not become parents often have pets, or they may enter a profession that is more of a care-giving nature than the other way around. Adulthood usually involves some kind of shift like this.
But even this isn't enough. As my children became adults and gradually (finally) moved out of the house for good, I became even more aware of the needs of others and of the opportunities for me to help some of them. Having low self-esteem can get in the way of helping others, because you don't feel worthy of doing for someone else. Sadly, it is in that sense a self-centered state of mind, too, even though it's a negative kind of selfishness.
There's a lot of Scripture that talks about love.
Last Sunday we heard about the prodigal son who was so self-centered, he demanded his inheritance early, ran off and squandered every penny of it, then came back home to beg for a lowly job so he could survive. But his father had a better sense of love and so he pulled out all the stops to celebrate his lost son's return home, much to the chagrin of his other son who had stayed home and done what was right.
That's a kind of radical love on the part of the father. Not all fathers would be so overjoyed to see a son come home begging after squandering money he didn't earn or deserve.
But John 15:13 suggests an even more radical idea: "No one has greater love than this, to lay down one's life for one's friends."
And that's what Jesus did when he died on the cross. As God, he didn't have to go endure that agony. But he did.
Read I Corinthians 13:4-8 for more specifics on radical, unconditional love.
What are you laying down your life for?
That's an interesting way to phrase a question. I probably would have thought about WHO I am laying down my life for. But we make decisions all the time about our priorities in life. Am I laying down my life for work -- a career -- so I can have more power, buy a bigger house to live in, make others jealous, perhaps elevate ourselves in hopes someone will admire us or look up to us?
Or are we laying down our lives by way of sharing what we have with others who have less? Are we giving of our time, support, resources to help raise up others instead of benefiting ourselves? Do we trust God enough to do that, secure in our belief that our heavenly Father will not allow us to fail, that he will provide other people who will provide somehow for our needs? Or do we not care, as long as we are making someone else's life easier?
Radical love can enable us to do radical things. Some people choose radical bad things to do, as have many famous dictators, kings and evil men throughout history. Others have chosen radical good, even in our own lifetimes. Think of people like Mother Teresa of Calcutta aka Blessed Teresa of Calcutta, who devoted her life to helping the poorest of the poor in Calcutta, India. Or throughout history, those who have given their lives to the Church -- the unsung heroes as well as the well known saints. And speaking of unsung heroes, they are among us everywhere, quietly spreading love and healing.
What are you laying down your life for?
Chapter 21:
The main event? The Resurrection, Jesus executed by the Romans, at the urging of the Jewish people in Jerusalem, yet three days later, an empty tomb. This chapter shares a story by a journalist who was an atheist three decades or more ago, whose wife became a Christian. This journalist used his reporting and investigative skills to try to discredit the resurrection and save his marriage, for he did not believe he could remain married to a Christian. But he was unable to discredit it; in fact, he came to the conclusion after examining all the available evidence (in Scripture and in the historic records) that it would take greater faith to maintain his atheism than it would take to accept the resurrection as truth and become a believer!
This former atheist was at the time he set this account into writing celebrating his 30th Easter as a Christian. It wasn't just his research that turned him. He saw changes in his wife, in her behavior and attitudes. The more he looked into it, the more he realized he couldn't continue to argue against the existence of God. He still cannot prove that God is real but he found enough evidence to change his own heart, which is not what he had set out to do.
God wants to resurrect you in some specific way. What area of your life needs resurrection right now?
I want to turn that around, to ask what area of my life DOESN'T need resurrection right now? But that's a cop-out.
However, I don't think I can figure it out on my own. This is something I will have to spend some time figuring out in prayer. Or just allowing it to unfold by handing over more of my days to God and see where it leads.
Susan
Monday, March 10, 2014
Hello, it's Lent. What are you giving up this year?
Ash Wednesday always seems to catch me off-guard, no matter how much I've thought about it and regardless of what I see on the calendar. It's like waiting in line to ride a roller coaster, and Ash Wednesday is when you step off the terminal and strap yourself into the seat. Suddenly you're full into Lent and you can't get off until the ride is over, which of course happens on Palm Sunday and Holy Week, culminating with Easter celebrations. So you've thought about what to give up for Lent? What might that be? The most popular answer seems to be chocolate. It's the fallback thing to give up when you haven't really thought much about it. It's trendy, it's traditional, it's the easy answer.I love chocolate as much as the next person, but I try to come up with something to do for Lent that is more spiritually rewarding than lusting after chocolate for six weeks. So what do you love as much as chocolate (well, almost) that would become meaningful for the next month and a half? How about giving up some of your bad habits, the ones that you hold nearest and dearest? One year I gave up road rage, and surprisingly, it stuck, sort of. I am much calmer now when I drive, and I don't call other drivers nasty names under my breath anymore. I do tense up sometimes, or bang my arm on the steering wheel, but basically, I've let it go, and when I forget, it's much easier to say, "Self, you gain nothing by getting all in a lather over what that driver is doing. Chill." Another year I decided to give up grudges. That's still a work in progress. But at least I am trying.This year, a meme was going around on Facebook that was a list of things to stop doing, and unlike most memes, it contained some worthwhile suggestions. In fact, all were items most of us would be hard-pressed to let go of, but doing so would most likely bring all of us a measure of inner peace and goodwill toward others.So this Lent, I am going to try to give up a whole list of bad habits, and Rose and I will be reflecting on a couple of them each week. It will be interesting to see how we each approach the topics. Full disclosure: We are NOT reading each other's posts before they're published. We will each write about every topic, but we're not collaborating. We will see one another's answers only after we've both written on the topic, and we won't be changing our posts in response.
Topic No. 1 Doubting Yourself
This bad habit can undermine the best-laid plans of humanity. Am I good enough? What if make a fool of myself?What if other people know more about it than I do?What if my skills fall short?What if I'm the only one wearing jeans (or a little black dress) to the party?What if ... you fill in the blank.What has this to do with spirituality, faith and Lent?According to Matthew, 22:35-39, this conversation took place between the Pharisees and Jesus:“Teacher, which commandment in the law is the greatest?”(Jesus) said to him, “You shall love the Lord, your God, with all your heart, with all your soul, and with all your mind."This is the greatest and the first commandment."The second is like it: You shall love your neighbor as yourself."
If you doubt your worthiness, then how do you love yourself? Is it a conditional love, as in "I love myself but only if I bowl a 200 game, only if I meet every deadline in my life, only if I never give in to temptation, only if I never get angry with my spouse, only if I never sing off-key, only if I am always appropriately dressed for the occasion, only if (you fill in the blank)?
If we are to love others as we love ourselves, do we only love others when they are worthy in every way, when they look good, are in a good mood, say yes when asked to do something, arrive on time, finish the job, meet every expectation? If we hold ourselves to such high standards for love-ability, and if we love others as we love ourselves, well, that's just setting ourselves up for failure. Every time. And setting up our friends and loved ones for failure.
Oddly, I heard a beautiful quote at a presentation I attended last night by an alternative farmer and author of eight (nine?) books on the importance of farming and caring for the Earth. He did not invoke religion at all, but he said this (and it seems relevant to me):
You may have been told by a parent, grandparent or teacher, if it's worth doing, it's worth doing right. But I say if it's worth doing, it's worth doing wrong the first time.
That's right. Because how do we grow and learn if we do everything perfectly the first time and every time? That means staying well inside your comfort zone. But growth requires risk-taking, and that includes spiritual growth, too. You have to establish a comfort zone, and then you absolutely must step outside of it if you are going to grow in your faith.
This Lent, consider giving up the habit of doubting yourself. It's a real feeling, so acknowledge it, then move past it and take some risks. You forgot your spouse's birthday? Oops. Make up for it, write it down for next year and move along. You missed an appointment? Reschedule, and don't miss it again. You didn't see the "casual attire" on the invitation and showed up in a suit or dress and heels? Just laugh it off. And pay attention next time.
We all fail, we all forget, we all make mistakes or misunderstand. Instead of doubting yourself, forgive yourself and do what you can to avoid repeating it. And love others in the same way by forgiving them when they fall short of expectations.
May the peace of Christ be with you.
Susan
Topic No. 1 Doubting Yourself
This bad habit can undermine the best-laid plans of humanity. Am I good enough? What if make a fool of myself?What if other people know more about it than I do?What if my skills fall short?What if I'm the only one wearing jeans (or a little black dress) to the party?What if ... you fill in the blank.What has this to do with spirituality, faith and Lent?According to Matthew, 22:35-39, this conversation took place between the Pharisees and Jesus:“Teacher, which commandment in the law is the greatest?”(Jesus) said to him, “You shall love the Lord, your God, with all your heart, with all your soul, and with all your mind."This is the greatest and the first commandment."The second is like it: You shall love your neighbor as yourself."
If you doubt your worthiness, then how do you love yourself? Is it a conditional love, as in "I love myself but only if I bowl a 200 game, only if I meet every deadline in my life, only if I never give in to temptation, only if I never get angry with my spouse, only if I never sing off-key, only if I am always appropriately dressed for the occasion, only if (you fill in the blank)?
If we are to love others as we love ourselves, do we only love others when they are worthy in every way, when they look good, are in a good mood, say yes when asked to do something, arrive on time, finish the job, meet every expectation? If we hold ourselves to such high standards for love-ability, and if we love others as we love ourselves, well, that's just setting ourselves up for failure. Every time. And setting up our friends and loved ones for failure.
Oddly, I heard a beautiful quote at a presentation I attended last night by an alternative farmer and author of eight (nine?) books on the importance of farming and caring for the Earth. He did not invoke religion at all, but he said this (and it seems relevant to me):
You may have been told by a parent, grandparent or teacher, if it's worth doing, it's worth doing right. But I say if it's worth doing, it's worth doing wrong the first time.
That's right. Because how do we grow and learn if we do everything perfectly the first time and every time? That means staying well inside your comfort zone. But growth requires risk-taking, and that includes spiritual growth, too. You have to establish a comfort zone, and then you absolutely must step outside of it if you are going to grow in your faith.
This Lent, consider giving up the habit of doubting yourself. It's a real feeling, so acknowledge it, then move past it and take some risks. You forgot your spouse's birthday? Oops. Make up for it, write it down for next year and move along. You missed an appointment? Reschedule, and don't miss it again. You didn't see the "casual attire" on the invitation and showed up in a suit or dress and heels? Just laugh it off. And pay attention next time.
We all fail, we all forget, we all make mistakes or misunderstand. Instead of doubting yourself, forgive yourself and do what you can to avoid repeating it. And love others in the same way by forgiving them when they fall short of expectations.
May the peace of Christ be with you.
Susan
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